1. Be informed
Do some reading to learn about your parent’s mental health condition. This will help you understand their experience. You may want to find out:
- what their diagnosis is, if they have one
- what are their symptoms?
- what are their treatment options?
It might help to talk to other people who have gone through the same experience – they might be able to offer advice and support and make you feel less alone.
2. Be supportive
If you feel able to, let your parent know you're there to support them, to listen and talk. Offer to help them with things they might need. As well as emotional support, they may need help with practical things such as shopping or cleaning the house. You may want to offer to attend medical appointments with them.
3. Dealing with stigma and discrimination
Unfortunately, there’s still stigma around mental illness despite about 1 in 4 New Zealanders experiencing a mental health problem each year. If you feel embarrassed or ashamed about your parent’s condition then this is normal. However this may be because others don’t understand mental distress. You may be surprised that initial negative reactions pass once people find out more.
4. Make sure you have support yourself
Having a parent with a mental health condition can be exhausting so it’s important to look after yourself too. You may feel emotionally or physically exhausted. It may impact on your own mental health. Take time to do things you enjoy or that help you feel resilient (strong enough to cope). It might help for you to have someone to talk to about what you’re going through – this may be other family members or friends.
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5. Seek professional help
If you're dealing with a parent with a mental health condition or if you had a difficult childhood growing up with that parent, you may feel you need professional help. That’s okay, there are lots of organisations offering support and advice.
It’s also quite common for children of parents with mental problems to worry that they have a mental health condition like their parent, and there's support for this too.
The Mental Health Foundation has a free resource and information service(external link) that will point you in the right direction.
6. Get support if you need it
- The Mental Health Foundation has a comprehensive list of mental health support services(external link).
- Yellow Brick Road(external link) is an organisation dedicated to helping families living with mental health conditions.
- Free call or text 1737 to speak to or text with a trained counsellor.