Family/whānau, relationships, school, work, money, life goals, health, safety, and personal beliefs – most people think carefully about many of these things before making a decision about a pregnancy.
Consider how you feel when you think about parenting, whāngai, adoption and abortion. What do you want for your future, and for your family or future family?
It may be helpful to ask yourself the following questions:
- How would my decision affect my future?
- How would my decision affect my family or other children?
- Am I ready to go through pregnancy and childbirth?
- Am I ready to raise a child right now?
- Do I have strong personal or religious beliefs about abortion, parenting or adoption?
- Is anyone pressuring me to make a certain choice?
- Will my family, my friends and my partner support my decision?
It may also help to imagine having a conversation with your future self, say in 10 years time, and consider what advice they may have for you. This can help you gain perspective on a situation that may feel overwhelming at this point in time.
There are lots of factors to consider, and it’s totally normal to have many different feelings when you’re thinking about your choices. Lots of people lean on others for support and advice as they’re making their decision. It’s good to choose people who you know are understanding and won’t judge you.