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Borderline personality disorder (BPD)

Key points about borderline personality disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition characterised by a pattern of varying and intense moods an unstable sense of self and a negative self-image.
People with BPD use behaviours to reduce stress or punish themselves for what they've done wrong as a way of coping. This may include self-harming.
Key symptoms include a fear of abandonment, unstable and intense relationships, intense and varied moods and impulsive behaviour.
BPD often appears in teens or early adulthood. It can affect your relationships, work and wellbeing but can be managed with support and treatment.

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(One Minute Diagnosis, US, 2017)

Because each person experiences a different combination of symptoms, each person with BPD deals with different difficulties. You may experience some or all of the following symptoms (5 are needed for a formal diagnosis):

Fear of abandonment (real or perceived) and trying to avoid it.
Unstable and very intense relationships.
Quick changes of mood, eg, feeling very happy then very sad in the same day.
Inappropriate and intense anger.
Doing things on impulse (not planning to do them or thinking about the consequences).
Identity disturbance (not knowing who you are).
Often having suicidal thoughts or behaviours.
Feeling empty most of the time.
Transient (passing) stress-related paranoid thoughts or dissociative symptoms (feeling like you're outside your body).

If your condition is more severe, you may have thoughts of self-harm or suicide. If you do, get help from your doctor or one of the helplines listed in the self-care and support section below.

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(MedCircle, US, 2018)

The exact cause of BPD is unknown but many factors may play a role. Research suggests both genes and environment play a role.

For many people with BPD, their difficulties appear to be related to some of the following:

A mismatch between your emotional needs when you were a child and what your parents or caregivers could give you.
Social isolation or rejection during childhood (eg, being bullied)
Experiencing traumatic events (eg sexual, physical or emotional abuse).
Other frightening events happening in childhood which made you think people couldn't be trusted or were going to leave you alone – especially if you felt you had nowhere to turn to.
Having a whānau member with BPD.

For other people, however, the cause is less clear.

If you have some of the symptoms mentioned above, it’s a good idea to see your doctor. They will ask you questions about your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, including sleeping and eating patterns, as well as how long you have been feeling this way. They will also ask if you have experienced these symptoms before and may ask about what's happening in your life at the moment. They may also do a physical examination and blood tests to rule out other causes for your symptoms.

Sometimes, it can be difficult to diagnose BPD because people with BPD may have symptoms that are similar to other mental health conditions or may have other mental health conditions at the same time. Your healthcare provider may refer you to a qualified mental health professional, who can do a more detailed assessment.

Treatment of BPD can involve a combination of psychological therapy, lifestyle changes and medicine, if needed. Psychological therapies are the treatment of choice for BPD. They may include individual, couple, family or group therapy. Examples of psychological therapies for BPD include:

dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT)
Structured Case Management
cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
mentalisation-based treatment (MBT)
counselling or psychotherapy.

Medicines aren’t used as the main treatment for the illness. In some cases, a psychiatrist may recommend medicines to treat specific symptoms if they think you also have another mental health disorder, or for short-term stress relief.

For some people, alternative approaches (eg, mindfulness meditation, yoga and online courses) have been useful.

Self-care – what can I do?

Small steps are the key to change – choose what feels manageable and build from there. This can include:

building your self-care skills – this builds your resilience so you can cope better with the challenges of life
keeping physically active – this helps your mental wellbeing
finding healthy ways to reduce and manage stress
getting help when you need it – remember this is a sign of strength, not weakness
staying connected to family, whānau and friends
finding a purpose, which increases your sense of meaning and belonging.