For some people, having cancer and treatment for it has no effect on their sexuality and sex lives. For others, it can have a profound impact, affecting how they feel about themselves, their attractiveness, and their sexual desire. Dealing with any changes is an ongoing process of adjustment.
The side effects of chemotherapy may mean that you don't feel like having sex because you feel tired, nauseous or unattractive, or you're struggling with your body image or in pain. It is important to keep communication open with your partner – for both of you to share your fears and needs.
Sexual intercourse is only one of the ways you can express affection for each other. Gestures of affection, gentle touches, cuddling, and fondling can also foster intimacy and closeness.
Women
- Woman may find their periods become less regular or stop altogether.
- They may get hot flushes or other symptoms of menopause, and an itchy, burning or dry vagina.
- Women may also get vaginal infections, such as thrush.
- Ask your doctor or nurse for something to help if you have any of these problems.
Men
- During treatment some men may have difficulties achieving or maintaining an erection, though others will be fine.
- For most men their usual sex drive and fertility return some time after treatment is over.
- Talk to someone you trust if you are experiencing ongoing problems with sexual relationships. Friends, nurses, or your doctor may be able to help.