Family violence (previously referred to as domestic violence) is hurting a family member or someone you're in a close personal relationship with.
Family violence can happen in many kinds of relationships
This includes violence between:
- husbands and wives
- civil union partners
- de facto (living together) partners
- people who are biological parents of the same person
- people related by blood
- people related through marriage, civil union, de facto relationships or adoption
- members of the same family/whānau or other culturally recognised family group
- flatmates or other people who live in the same house or flat
- people in a close personal relationship who don’t live together
- people in care/carer relationships, if it's also a close personal relationship.
Family violence can be hurting someone physically. It can also be hurting someone emotionally, psychologically, financially and/or sexually.
Examples of the different types of family violence from Family violence – it’s not OK(external link)
- Hitting and punching.
- Biting, pushing, choking or pulling your hair.
- Making you drink or take drugs when you don't want to.
- Using or threatening to use weapons.
- Making you feel like everything you do is wrong.
- Tormenting you emotionally.
- Constantly criticising you or your friends.
- Humiliating you in front of your friends.
- Using unsafe driving to frighten you.
- Damaging property/walls/possessions to scare you.
- Making you isolated and alone.
- Blaming everything on you.
- Threatening to take the children away or hurt them.
- Stalking, following, checking up on you.
- Harming pets to punish you.
- Stopping you from, or forcing you to, practice a faith or religion.
- Making you feel scared of what might happen next.
- Forcing you to have sex or do other sexual acts you don't want to do.
- Touching you in a way you don't want.
- Frequently accusing you of sleeping with other people.
- Forcing you to watch porn.
- Taking your money or property.
- Running up debts in your name.
- Misusing power of attorney.
- Pressuring you into paying money.
- Not providing food, clothing and warmth.
- Leaving dependants alone or with someone who is unsafe.
- Not providing comfort, attention and love.
- Not providing medical treatment.
Family violence is a crime in New Zealand. Find out more about the Family violence act and the family violence (amendment) act.(external link)