Personal stories about pregnancy

Key points about personal stories about pregnancy

  • Everyone's journey to pregnancy is different.
  • These videos follow three couples as they open up about their pregnancy experience.
  • A midwife also offers expert advice and tips for first time mothers.


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Three couples open up about their pregnancy experience – from morning sickness, to supplements, to preparing for baby's arrival and more. A midwife also offers expert advice and tips for first time mothers.

Video: Your pregnancy

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(Ministry of Health, NZ 2015)

Video: Your pregnancy: 0-14 weeks

Chrissie and Vika share their pregnancy story. Hear Vika's reaction when he found out Chrissie was pregnant and the advice he has for new dads.

Ngaire (Chrissie's midwife) explains screening tests and scans and gives Chrissie and Vika advice about eating well, being active, taking supplements and avoiding alcohol, smoking and drugs. This video may take a few moments to load.

Video: Your pregnancy: 14-30 weeks

Rachael and John are 26 weeks pregnant. See how they learn about their baby's development. Their midwife, Ngaire, explains her role and what screening tests and scans are offered at this stage of pregnancy. This video may take a few moments to load.


Video: Your pregnancy: week 30 onwards

Jane is 36 weeks pregnant. See how her and Pat are preparing for labour and birth and hear about some of the choices they have made for their birth plan. Learn how antenatal classes helped Pat and Jane prepare for baby's arrival. Jane also explains why she plans to breastfeed her baby and talks about preparing to breastfeed. This video may take a few moments to load.

(Ministry of Health, NZ, 2015)

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Jess, Auckland, 18 weeks pregnant

Before I found out I was pregnant, I had just got back into a great routine at my new gym. I was building up my cardio levels and had a new, challenging weights programme. I was feeling great, and pushing myself quite hard during my workouts. 

Then it all changed. I got the BFP (pregnancy talk: Big Fat Positive). Could I go to the gym? What could I do there? Would squats and sweaty runs harm the baby? Had I already hurt the baby as I had been working out hard without knowing I was pregnant? I had so many questions. 

My midwife advised me that it was perfectly okay to continue at the gym, doing what I had been but to listen to my body. If I felt tired, sore or out of breath, I was to stop. And I was told to keep up with drinking A LOT of water as I didn’t want to overheat. I gave this a go for a couple of weeks, but things had changed. I did get out of breath, I would get dizzier and running with my newly acquired DD bra cup was not comfortable! 

So I’ve adapted my exercise to suit my situation. I started yoga which has been great as it helps my stress levels and also is meant to be good prep for the birth (breathing, stretching etc). I have also reverted to walking around my neighbourhood and getting out into the bush for walks. This allows me to set the pace better and ‘hear’ my body more than when I was at the gym. I also feel okay when I only get a 30 minute walk. 

I feel healthy and my stress is being managed. I believe my midwife was right in saying to just listen to my body and do what feels right."

Jess’s top tips

  • Listen to your midwife.
  • Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to do the same type of exercise as before you were pregnant.
  • Reconsider what your body needs from exercise while you are pregnant (birth prep, stress and weight management) and try different things that feel okay.
  • Get a good sports bra!

Kelly is a Wellingtonian, mother to three girls

Here she tells about her culinary sacrifices and enhancements for the health of her and her babies.

The first time I conceived I was in Europe – I was confident that I was in good shape, physically, but I kept thinking about what I was putting into my body. I stopped taking the pill three months before we tried to conceive, purely because I heard it was good for your body to have a few “normal” cycles. Along with this I continued a healthy varied diet.

I also started taking a prenatal supplement, with folic acid being the primary constituent. Folic acid decreases the chances of developing neural tube defects, such as spina bifida. It also has things like iron and calcium in it, as pregnancy draws hugely from these resources.

And then there is the great list on what not to eat; when I read this I was heartbroken. How would I survive without wine and cheese when I’m in France?

No booze, no caffeine, no soft cheese because it hasn’t been pasteurised, no pate, liver, or frois gras because of the high levels of vitamin A. Then I was off to Italy and found that I can’t have Parma ham or any deli meats because of the risk of contracting the Listeria bug which can cause miscarriage. This was a cruel place to be pregnant.

I was out at dinner one night and couldn’t eat a wide range of things that this particular restaurant had to offer, a man remarked to me “you pregnant woman are far too fussy these days, our mums used to eat whatever they wanted and we all turned out fine”. I replied that birth defect rates have also dropped considerably and there are a lot more healthy babies being born… that shut him up.

Of course, it should go without saying these days, that smoking (anything) during and after pregnancy is a complete no-no! Thank goodness I didn’t have to give that up as well.

Precautions don't stop with birth of baby

Once the baby is born, precaution doesn’t stop there, it continues if you are breast-feeding. I continued to take the prenatal vitamin Elevit because of the continuing demands on my body. I did have the odd glass of wine, however with no ill effects to either of us.

Some women don’t eat chocolate because it upsets their baby, whereas I kept Cadbury in business. I just kept away from overly spicy or intensely flavoured foods as this gives Isabella a bellyache. I guess we are all different.

It’s amazing how things get passed through breast milk, like once I had a pizza, and the next day Isabella was farting pizza all day... terrible.

And now, I’m pregnant again! So it’s back to the strict regime: folic acid pills, no coffee, no alcohol, no unpasteurised foods, no deli foods, no sleeping on my back. Argh.” 

Kelly's top tips


  • do lay off the caffeine
  • do take a folic acid supplement
  • do eat a balanced healthy diet
  • do watch what foods you eat when you are breastfeeding.


  • don't smoke
  • don't drink alcohol
  • don't eat unpasteurised foods - soft cheeses, various other dairy products (check them first)
  • don't eat pate or liver
  • don't eat raw eggs, cafe or supermarket chiller foods like salads, dips or luncheon meat (you don't know how long they have been there and they don't get heated before consumption)
  • don't eat Parma ham or any deli meats.

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